GETTING OUT OF PODUNK
There are those who cannot bring themselves to admit they do not have complete control over their lives. These people will tell you "Life is what you make it." There are those who believe the opposite: we are what life makes us, which is admitting we are powerless victims with no control over our destiny.
But the truth is neither extreme.We do not always have complete control and therefore are victims but we are not always powerless victims, as well. Accepting you have been a victim is nothing to be ashamed of. It's really no different than admitting you are in Podunk. There's no sense hashing over how you wound up in Podunk because you can't travel back in time and change your destination. You do have the right to take time to grieve your loss ... but don't turn your grieving into a career.
Instead, empower yourself. Remind yourself that you were a victim but that was in the past. Start asking yourself questions. What can I do to get back on my path? It's normal for the negatives, what we can't do but wish we could, to pop into our minds. Just don't make a career out of that magical thinking. It won't get you out of Podunk. Instead, focus on what you can do, not on what you can't do. And before you know it Podunk will be behind you.
Be well.
Copyright 8/12/2010
agreed. becoming a victim is easy as falling off a log, anybody can do do it...in fact most of us do from time to time. remaining a victim is largely a matter of choice.
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